互聯(lián)網(wǎng)流傳一封由前香港電臺(tái) DJ 梁繼璋寫給兒子的信，姑勿論其真假，文章挺有意思。我閱後亦很有衝動(dòng)給女兒寫一封家書，以下英文句語純是我向三個(gè)年幼女兒的說教，雖然部分內(nèi)容仿若，但絕非原中文信的翻譯。
Letter to My Princesses
My Dearest,
If you come across this post – which I hope you would one day –please make note of the lessons I’ve learned. What I have experienced is no big different from what others do. In fact, the lessons are totally universal. Unfortunately, not everybody learn from experience. I hope you would though. In fact, I hope you learn before going through the pain I had.
1. Don’t take anything for granted. No one is obligated to treat you well. Be thankful for those who do. Don’t mind those who don’t. When you find someone cares about you, watch. There may be hidden agenda. Take your time before you befriend with anyone.
2. There is no one you can’t live without. There is nothing you absolutely must have. If you lose anyone or anything, take it easy. Life goes on. Treasure what you have. Don’t miss too much of what you once had.
3. Life is short. Time cannot be reclaimed once gone. Don’t waste any second of it. Live life to its fullest. Quality is way more important than quantity. Instead of looking for a long life, just live a meaningful one.
4. It is easy to fall in love. It is not easy to keep loving. Love changes – except the love between you and me. Please love with your head, not over it.
5. Education doesn’t guarantee success. But I guarantee you will need knowledge to be successful. Keep learning, or you will fall behind.
6. As your mom, my job is to prepare you to be self sufficient. I have no responsibility to build your future. You owe that to yourself. I am here standing by you, and will always be. Show me how high you can fly.
7. Keep your words, but don’t assume others do the same. Respect others, but don’t expect the same returns. It does not sound right, I know. Just do it, for your own good. Otherwise, your life will be miserable.
8. You always say you are the luckiest kids in the world, which you are. I am also the luckiest mom in the world because I have you three. But you know what? It is not just luck that lands us where we are. We have been working hard for it. Don’t you think? The harder we try, the luckier we will be. And that applies to everything else. There is no pure luck, my dear.
9. We only live once. Our family was given not by choice. Having you three is the best thing that could happen to me. I love you all. You are my everything. I will do anything for you. Just please make me be proud of you. If there is anything that you want to hide from me, think twice before you do it.
Mom with love
—— 梁繼璋之原文 ——
給孩子的備忘錄
我兒:
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個(gè)原則：
（一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點(diǎn)說好。
（二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會(huì)跟你說。
（三）這備忘錄里記載的，都是我經(jīng)過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗(yàn)，可以為你的成長(zhǎng)省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
（一）對(duì)你不好的人，你不要太介懷，在你一生中，沒有人有義務(wù)要對(duì)你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對(duì)你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請(qǐng)多防備一點(diǎn)，因?yàn)?，每個(gè)人做每件事，總有一個(gè)原因，他對(duì)你好，未必真的是因?yàn)橄矚g你，請(qǐng)你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對(duì)方看作真朋友。
（二）沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有?？赐噶诉@一點(diǎn)，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時(shí)，也應(yīng)該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費(fèi)著生命，明日會(huì)發(fā)覺生命已遠(yuǎn)離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長(zhǎng)壽，倒不如早點(diǎn)享受。
（四）世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時(shí)的感覺，而這感覺絕對(duì)會(huì)隨時(shí)日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請(qǐng)耐心地等候一下，讓時(shí)日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會(huì)慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。
（五）雖然，很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等如不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學(xué)到的知識(shí)，就是你擁有的武器。人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，緊記！
（六）我不會(huì)要求你供養(yǎng)我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會(huì)供養(yǎng)你的下半輩子，當(dāng)你長(zhǎng)大到可以獨(dú)立的時(shí)候，我的責(zé)任已經(jīng)完結(jié)。以後，你要坐巴士還是Benz，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負(fù)責(zé)。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對(duì)人好，但不能期待人家對(duì)你好。你怎樣對(duì)人，並不代表人家就會(huì)怎樣對(duì)你，如果看不透這一點(diǎn)，你只會(huì)徒添不必要的煩惱。
（八）我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎(jiǎng)也沒有中，這證明人要發(fā)達(dá)，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費(fèi)午餐。
（九）親人只有一次的緣份，無論這輩子我和你會(huì)相處多久，也請(qǐng)好好珍惜共聚的時(shí)光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會(huì)再見。
你的爸爸
梁繼璋
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