(Reuters Life!) – Couples who get to know each other before being intimate have a better chance of having a lasting relationship, but in some cases even a casual fling can lead to true love, according to a new research.
路透生活-一項(xiàng)新研究顯示：先互相了解之后才有肌膚之親的情侶天長(zhǎng)地久的幾率較高，但某些情況下，一見(jiàn)脫衣也可能脫出真愛(ài)。
Most of the 56 percent of 642 adults questioned in the study who said they had waited until they got serious before they had sex reported having a high quality relationship.
這項(xiàng)調(diào)查中的642個(gè)成年人有56%表示自己是在確定有未來(lái)之后再跟對(duì)方上床，而這些人自稱有較好的婚戀關(guān)系。
The number was higher than for the 27 percent of people who had sex while dating casually and the 17 percent who were intimate while in a non-romantic relationship.
相反，說(shuō)自己騎驢找馬階段也可以滾床單的27%，以及完全沒(méi)愛(ài)也能做愛(ài)的17%被調(diào)者的情史就沒(méi)這么幸福了。
“There’s something about the characteristics of people who wait before sex that is linked to higher-quality relationships,” said sociology professor Anthony Paik of the University of Iowa.
對(duì)此，俄亥俄州大學(xué)的社會(huì)學(xué)教授Anthony Paik這樣解釋：“會(huì)耐心等待再上床的人有些能使他們兩性關(guān)系質(zhì)量較高的共性。”
Paik, who reported the findings in the journal Social Science Research, said the research suggests that the courtship process acts as a screening mechanism.
Paik教授這項(xiàng)發(fā)表于《社會(huì)科學(xué)研究》期刊上的研究顯示，求偶的過(guò)程能起到一種過(guò)濾的作用。
“The debate is ‘why can’t we have sex now?’ The expectation is that sex should occur very quickly. But doing so, you’re losing out on some information that might be useful,” he explained in an interview.
“人們常說(shuō)：‘為什么不能現(xiàn)在就上床呢？’很多人覺(jué)得性愛(ài)可以很快就發(fā)生。但這樣的話，你就失去了很多獲取有用信息的機(jī)會(huì)。”他在一次采訪中這樣解釋。
It’s almost an economic equation, he added.
這差不多就是一種經(jīng)濟(jì)學(xué)上說(shuō)的投入產(chǎn)出比，他補(bǔ)充道。
“On average, the more costly the process leading into the relationship, the more likely it is to work. That’s what the data would suggest.”
“一般來(lái)說(shuō)，追求一段感情的過(guò)程中的投入越高，這段感情可能持久的幾率也就越大。這次研究數(shù)據(jù)顯示的就是這樣。”
But Paik said the findings did not show that an early sexual relationship had a direct negative impact on relationships.
但Paik教授也說(shuō)，這次調(diào)查的發(fā)現(xiàn)并沒(méi)有顯示早上床就一定會(huì)給戀情帶來(lái)負(fù)面影響。
When he filtered out people who said they had frequent non-romantic or casual dating sexual relationships he found that the gap in relationship quality between serious and nonserious contexts of sexual activity disappeared.
當(dāng)他把那些說(shuō)自己把無(wú)愛(ài)性生活視為常態(tài)者的被試剔除出去之后，戀情的質(zhì)量跟發(fā)生性關(guān)系的時(shí)間早晚就沒(méi)那么大的聯(lián)系了。
“It means it’s possible for two strangers to lock eyes in a bar, and go home together, and actually end up in a long-term relationship,” Paik said
Paik解釋道：“這說(shuō)明兩個(gè)陌生人在酒吧一見(jiàn)鐘情，立馬回家翻云覆雨，最終白頭偕老，這也是有可能發(fā)生的。”
The reason more people who have sex in a non-romantic relationships report lower quality relationships has more to do with who we are than when we chose to have sex, said Paik.
至于那些常常有性無(wú)愛(ài)者說(shuō)自己感情質(zhì)量很差，這主要還是要找內(nèi)因，而不是上床的時(shí)機(jī)。Paik這樣說(shuō)。
Certain people are simply prone to finding relationships less rewarding, and they are more likely to have sex in casual relationships, he added.
有些人總是覺(jué)得自己的情路坎坷，也正是這些人總是會(huì)在沒(méi)有未來(lái)的感情中付出肉體。他補(bǔ)充道。
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