Our relationships with others help to improve our life experience. Good relations reduce stress and help us to know us better. But what is a relationship? A relationship is a place where we give first, not a place where we take. We decided to share with you four keys that allow you to live extraordinary relationships. Here they are!

我們與他人的關(guān)系會幫助我們增加生活閱歷。好的人際關(guān)系能減輕生活壓力，更能幫助我們更好地了解自己。但是什么才是人際關(guān)系呢？人際關(guān)系是一個我們先需要付出的平臺，而不是索取。我們決定與你分享處理好人際關(guān)系的四把關(guān)鍵鑰匙。全都在這里了。

First key: Respect

第一把鑰匙：尊重

The need to be respected and recognized is fundamental in all our relationships. If you do not understand or respect the needs, interests and values of others, you do not express them respect. This causes disputes and poorer relationships. Without respect, our relations are doomed to remain superficial and unsatisfactory. If you accept others and generally you do not try to change them, they will not feel judged and respect you for sure!

在所有的人際關(guān)系中，被人尊重和認可的渴求都是最最基本的。如果你不能理解和尊重別人的這種渴求，興趣與價值的話，你就無法做到尊重他人。這就會導(dǎo)致懷疑和互相之間較差的關(guān)系。沒有互相尊重，這種人際關(guān)系注定是留于表面的，膚淺的而且是不能讓人感到滿足的。如果你接受他人，并且總的來說并不想去改變他們，他們不會感到被人評頭論足，也一定會尊重你。5

Second key: Trust

第二把鑰匙：信任

What is the relationship without trust? In relationships, trust allows others to know we are here, with them, for good reasons. Trust stems from respect and allows others to feel completely themselves with us. It is also in trust that intimacy can be healthy. This intimacy allows us to deepen our relations, to know others beyond weather conversations. Is this not the definition of a meaningful relationship?

沒有信任的人際關(guān)系會是怎么樣的？人與人之間相處，信任能夠讓別人了解到我們就在這里，就在他們的身邊陪伴著他們。信任是建立在相互尊重的基礎(chǔ)上，并且讓他人感覺到我們完完全全地就在他們身邊。如此這樣，親密感也會增加，而這又會進一步加深我們之間的友誼，而并不是只有簡簡單單的有關(guān)天氣的交流。這難道不是有意義的人際關(guān)系的定義嗎？

Third key: Sharing

第三把鑰匙：分享

The quality of our relations depends on the quality of what we share with others. But in our consumer world, we are sometimes inclined to monetize our relationships: "I will do this only if you do that to me.” This attitude fosters conflict because each begins to recognize what he does for others if there must always a return of the favor. This attitude brings forth the question of comparison. Instead, the extraordinary relationships are asking us to give without expecting anything in return. This is what gives rise to a virtuous cycle of reciprocity. If I give freely without expectation of return, others will give me freely as well. The calculation is then replaced by the gift of self, which in turn inspires support from others. Sharing based and lasting relationships fosters respect, trust and deep commitment.

人與人之間相處的質(zhì)量取決于我們互相之間分享的東西。但是在這樣一個商品經(jīng)濟世界中，我們有的時候會傾向于一種類似等價金錢交易的方式來看待我們的關(guān)系：“如果你對我這么做了，那我也會對你這樣的。”這種態(tài)度我引起沖突，因為大家都覺得我們的付出應(yīng)該換來等價交換。這種態(tài)度會也帶來了一個有趣的類比。相反的，良好的人際關(guān)系就會要求我們不求回報的付出，這回引起一個高尚的互惠互利的云煥。如果我不求回報地為他人付出，那么其他人也會這么做。這樣的話，金錢的計算就會變成友誼本身，而且互相之間的支持也越來越多。建立在互相信任的長時間的關(guān)系能夠加強尊重，信任和更深層次的諾言。2

Fourth key: Compromise

第四把鑰匙：妥協(xié)

There are always differences between the interests and the ways to see life. Every relationship requires that we set aside a portion of our priorities to open ourselves to what others think and want. For example, when a conflict arises between two people who have a strong character, none of them does not bend to give "reason" to another. This attitude, based on pride, ensures that relations will deteriorate, because aggression destroys communication and understanding. If we think only about ourselves, no compromise is possible. Thus, to live extraordinary relationships, there must be compromise.

在一些事情的看法和利益問題上，人與人之間總是會有不同的看法。而在這其中我們所需要做的就是將我們自己的最優(yōu)利益放到一邊，而讓自己去接受其他人的想法。舉個例子來說，如果兩個人都很要強，而他們之間又出現(xiàn)了一些爭執(zhí)，那么它們絕對不會給對方讓步的。這樣的態(tài)度，每個人都有的驕傲，只會使互相之間的關(guān)系惡化，因為侵略性只會使破壞交流和理解。如果我們只想著自己，就不可能妥協(xié)。因此，如果想要良好的人際關(guān)系，就一定要學(xué)會妥協(xié)。