For most parents, their children’s wellbeing is a number one priority. Happy children are more likely to grow up to be merry and successful adults. Therefore, it is crucial that we consider all aspects of wellbeing - being mental, physical, social and spiritual - as important. Fulfilling children’s needs in all of these areas will lead to their overall level of life satisfaction. So how do we raise happy kids? The key is not to just raise them, but to grow up with them!
隨著互聯(lián)網(wǎng)的發(fā)展，尤其在知識經(jīng)濟發(fā)展的時代，網(wǎng)路上有成千上萬免費或付費的資訊教你培養(yǎng)聰明和成功的孩子，但怎么培養(yǎng)一個“快樂的孩子”的資源卻不多。一個全方位快樂的孩子，在情感，體能，精神，人際交往上都得到滿足的孩子，更容易成長為成功的人，所以站在家長的立場，比起養(yǎng)育他們，陪伴他們成長更重要！
Of course, at times it can be difficult to balance what’s best for children with parents’ work and other time commitments. But growing up with your children may not take as much extra time and effort as you think, if you are more conscious of your own behavior. Besides, the return on investment in your child’s happiness is priceless. Below are some useful tips to help you to grow up with your children.
都市生活節(jié)奏特別快，每天疲于工作和生活，還需要騰出時間跟孩子互動交流，很多家長都表示力不從心。但是只要方法用對時間用準，養(yǎng)成習慣，日積月累你一定會得到滿意的結果。再者，比起其他投入，投入到孩子身上會得到更幸福的回報！這里我們嚴選了五個小竅門幫助家長在日常生活中與孩子互動。
Keep yourself happy and active
保持積極快樂
How happy and active you are affects how happy and successful your kids will be - dramatically. By simply spending sometime with your own friends, and having a laugh with your family, can increase your levels of happiness. By keeping yourself happy and active with regular exercise and other healthy outlets, your mood will also rub off on your children.
有其父必有其子。你是積極快樂的，你的孩子必然也是積極快樂的！父母保持有頻率的鍛煉和養(yǎng)成健康習慣，有自己的朋友圈有利于提高整體家庭幸福感，當你感到幸?？鞓罚愕暮⒆颖厝粫贿@種情感感染。
Teach your children social skills
社交技巧很重要
Having high quality relationships with others is a proven predictor of one’s happiness and overall quality of life. According to many studies loneliness has the strongest correlation with life expectancy compared with any other predictor. Therefore social interaction etiquette is an important skill for kids of any age to develop. Take notice of how your child interacts with other children. Simply encouraging kids to include others when playing, notice others’ feelings, apologize when needed and perform small acts of kindness can help them build friendships and develop empathy. This will be further demonstrated in how you interact with other adults. Be careful of your own behavior when you are in social situations, kids will pick up on parent’s behavior and begin to mimic both positive and negative aspects in their own social interactions.
良好的人際關系是個人幸福感和生命品質的體現(xiàn)。很多研究表明，孤獨的人壽命更短。因而社交禮節(jié)和技巧值得任何年齡段的人學習。關注孩子與同齡人之間的相處方式，鼓勵他們融入群體，培養(yǎng)樂于助人，樂善好施的精神，建立同理心和友誼。同時家長也需要以身作則，樹立榜樣，讓孩子復制良好的行為模式。
Encourage effort over perfection
鼓勵行動，而非苛求完美
We must be careful not to pressurize our children by expecting perfection from them. This will ensure that they are putting in effort for their own benefit and the self-satisfaction that comes with completing difficult tasks or over coming challenges. By praising effort but not expecting perfection, we can teach our children to become self-motivated and self-disciplined which are some of the most sought-after skills by employers.
不是為了苛求完美而施加壓力，而是鼓勵孩子行動起來。讓孩子懂得，經(jīng)過克服困難挑戰(zhàn)和努力所獲得的成功，是自我滿足的過程，有利于讓孩子學會自我激勵和保持自律，這不管是對學習還是工作都非常有幫助。
Teach Emotional Intelligence
情商要培養(yǎng)
Emotional intelligence is a skill, not an innate characteristic. Expecting children to “naturally” come to understand their own emotions is unreasonable. In order to help them develop a voice of reason we must ask open questions to encourage them to think and talk about their feelings.
情商不是生而具備的，而是通過后天練習和培養(yǎng)形成，因此期望孩子們自然而然的理解自己的情感是不現(xiàn)實的。想要培養(yǎng)出情商高的孩子，在日常溝通的過程中，家長可以多進行開放性的提問。比如孩子不聽話的時候，別急著跟著孩子生氣，而是安慰和提問，問孩子是不是很生氣或者很難過，讓孩子有機會表達和理解自己的情感。
Set up their environment for happiness
營造快樂的環(huán)境
It’s true we are all strongly influenced by our environment. As they say, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time around so it is important to keep healthy company, and therefore create a positive environment for ourselves. Some simple measures that can be implemented to ensure your child’s environment is conducive to happiness could include, less TV, less electronic devices, more human interaction, more playtime and time spent being active or outdoors. Perhaps the simplest habit of all, eating family dinners together can have the most profound impact on the happiness of your children and the whole family. Mealtimes are an opportunity to check in with all family members and strengthen family bonds. Mealtime discussions can help family members solve each other’s problems, talk about the good parts of their day, plan upcoming events and discuss exciting ideas. This regular family routine will also give children a sense of stability in their home lives.
大家肯定都聽過，把你身邊五位親密好友的能力階級水平加起來取平均值，就是你現(xiàn)在的能力階級水平。可見人是環(huán)境的動物，給孩子營造一個健康快樂的環(huán)境是多么重要！家庭生活中，讓孩子少看電視少用電子設備，多與人互動，多參與戶外活動。每一天的晚餐時刻，開放性的與孩子討論一天發(fā)生的事情和第二天的計劃，了解家庭成員之間存在的問題，加強彼此間的感情鏈接，不僅讓孩子感受到幸福穩(wěn)定的家庭氛圍，更是給孩子樹立了榜樣。
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