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The self-confidence is the first barrel of gold
經(jīng)常有人問(wèn)我第一桶金怎么來(lái)的，從哪里得到的，有多少。其實(shí)每次有人問(wèn)我這個(gè)問(wèn)題時(shí)，我都想說(shuō)，人的第一桶金是自信。即使你沒(méi)錢(qián)也不要怕，自信就是你的資本。也有人在自信前面加了一個(gè)不好的修飾語(yǔ)，叫盲目自信，我不太愛(ài)聽(tīng)。我說(shuō)過(guò)很多次自我的害處，但我認(rèn)為與自我有點(diǎn)關(guān)系的不多的好東西之一，就是自信。自信當(dāng)然有自我意識(shí)，還有信，相信的信。相信，是正面的、健康的。要相信自己。一個(gè)相信自己的人才會(huì)相信他人，相信未來(lái)。
Some people always ask me how did I get my "first barrel of gold"，where and how much?Every time they ask this question to me,I'd like to say,the first barrel of gold is "self-confidence". You may lack of money through,but the confidence is what you already have.Some add a bad affix "blind",to be "blind confidence",which I don't like.I have told that many bad things are related to "ego",but one of the few good things that relate to "ego ",is confidence.Confidences are base on self-consciousness, and believe.Believe is positive and healthy.Trust yourself.The one who trust himself would trust others,and he would trust the future.
一個(gè)人不能自卑，千萬(wàn)不要三教九流地劃分什么層次，并把自己歸為某個(gè)層次來(lái)限制自己的能量。我14歲半去蘭州上學(xué)，窮得不得了，只有一條褲子，于是整個(gè)學(xué)期我都在擔(dān)心這條褲子會(huì)不會(huì)磨破了，破了就慘了，因?yàn)槲依锩娲┝艘粭l花褲衩。這給我造成極大的心理壓力，每時(shí)每刻都在擔(dān)心這條褲子會(huì)破，每次站起來(lái)前都要先偷偷摸一下后面是不是有洞。那一陣我真是自卑極了，因?yàn)橐粭l破褲子，走路靠邊，站隊(duì)找不好姿勢(shì)，完全沒(méi)有精神。
One can not value self below others, not to regard himself as some kind of loser and set limitation for himself. When I was 14 go Lanzhou for study there, I was to poor to afford two trousers. For all term long, I was worry that one day my trousers would be frazzled. It would be quite embarrassing because I wore colorful underwear inside. I took great pressure at that time, keep worrying about these trousers, every time before I stood up, I need to check whether there are some holes on it. I had a strong sense of inferiority at that time, because of my broken trousers; I walk along the street side, do not had a good pose when queue without vigor.
我們說(shuō)一個(gè)人有精神，是指他呈現(xiàn)出一種積極的、向上的狀態(tài)。表現(xiàn)在對(duì)人上他是大度、和善的；體現(xiàn)在對(duì)事上他是努力、敢于擔(dān)當(dāng)而不畏困難的。這樣的有精神的人，能夠形成吸引他人與之交往或者共事。我記得小時(shí)候我爸對(duì)我特別鄭重地說(shuō)過(guò)兩句話：沒(méi)事別惹事，有事別怕事。我若遇到困難，想起這兩句話，就會(huì)一下子把身上的能量全都調(diào)動(dòng)起來(lái)。我去學(xué)校做演講時(shí)，也跟大學(xué)生們說(shuō)，這一代大學(xué)生，心理上要強(qiáng)大。要能看到我們這個(gè)時(shí)代缺些什么東西，然后我們可以做到哪些事情，不要偷奸?；?，繞到邊上去。軟綿綿的人、奸猾的人，沒(méi)有人敢與他搭伙做事。
When we refer to some one as vigorous, it just means that he is in a positive and upward condition. They will be friendly, magnanimous when they were dealing with others. They will endeavor to afford the difficulties. They can attract others to work with them. I can still remember my dad had once told me seriously:” Don\'t stir up trouble when you were free, don’t afraid when you need to face” Since then, every time I facing some problems, I will think of these two sentences, from which I can gather the confidence to face these problems. When I go give lecture in some University, I also tell the college student that, you must have a strong psychological ability. You should find out what our era lack of is, and what you can do, not just try to reach your goal through cheating. These fraudulent one will have no one accompany.
自信的人敢于說(shuō)真話，即使真話傷害了他人，別人最終還是會(huì)信任你，因?yàn)樗馨盐兆∧恪Ｗ孕诺娜瞬慌卤┞蹲约旱膫€(gè)性，敢于真實(shí)暴露自己的內(nèi)心。我說(shuō)的話，都是我心里想的，不會(huì)迎合誰(shuí)去說(shuō)。個(gè)性是以真實(shí)為基礎(chǔ)的。如果你真實(shí)，不要怕你的個(gè)性被發(fā)現(xiàn)。從市場(chǎng)交換來(lái)看，我們有一個(gè)原則，就是差異交換。你有一個(gè)梨子，我有一個(gè)蘋(píng)果，才能發(fā)生交換，如果大家都是梨子，就不會(huì)交換了。自信的人敢于拿出自己的蘋(píng)果。
These confident ones dare to tell the truth, even through the truth hurts, but other will trust them at the end, for he can understand you. They don’t afraid to expose their personality; dare to show what they think in their heart. All my words are what I think in my mind, not for cater someone. The personality is base on reality. If you are real, no need to fear of showing your personality. From the respective of the market, we exchange what we have for what we like. You have an apple, while I have a pear, and then there will be exchange. If all we have are pears, there will be no exchange. Only these confident ones dare to show their apples.
這一點(diǎn)對(duì)我最有啟發(fā)的是動(dòng)畫(huà)片《花木蘭》?；咎m的爸爸對(duì)花木蘭說(shuō)：“樹(shù)上開(kāi)的花，每一朵花都是獨(dú)特的，你可能是最晚開(kāi)的那一朵，可是一定是最漂亮的。”這句話說(shuō)得非常好，是個(gè)大道理?，F(xiàn)在都講張揚(yáng)個(gè)性，我覺(jué)得個(gè)性不一定非要有意張揚(yáng)，還是自然存在的比較好。個(gè)性和自我是不一樣的。個(gè)性是你客觀存在的特征，你是個(gè)誠(chéng)實(shí)的人，是機(jī)靈的人，或者說(shuō)話愛(ài)眨眼的人，這些自然出現(xiàn)的個(gè)性，是你的標(biāo)志。但是一鼓動(dòng)大家去張揚(yáng)個(gè)性，可能個(gè)性就變成一種主觀設(shè)定了。他是個(gè)短頭發(fā)，可是為了表現(xiàn)與眾不同而留一頭長(zhǎng)發(fā)。而這個(gè)個(gè)性不是他本身具有的，只是一種最新的開(kāi)發(fā)和設(shè)計(jì)。我們可以欣賞他對(duì)自己形象的創(chuàng)新，但要說(shuō)這是他的個(gè)性，就不靠譜了。個(gè)性是固有的和恒定的個(gè)體特征，是彼此了解和把握的依據(jù)，要是這個(gè)依據(jù)都可以隨意設(shè)計(jì)，人就真的不能信任了。
The cartoon “MuLan” has inspired me a lot on this point. Mulan’s father told Mulan that:” Every flower on the tree is unique, you might be the last one to blossom, but also the most beautiful one.” This sentence is quite meaningful, for it has told the truth. Now show individuality seems to be a new fashion, but I don’t think we need to overdo, just let it be. The personality is different from “ego”. Personality is what you have naturally, like your were an honest guy, or maybe you were a smart guy. These natural stuffs make up what we called personality. Once encourage all of us to show our individuality, maybe this individuality will became a subjective setting here, which perhaps be wrong. He has a short cut, but he keeps a long hair to show his difference. But this difference here is not what he really have, just a personal design. We can regard it as kind of his creative of figure, but not his personality. The personality is the stable and constant characteristic one have, which can be used to understand others. If this characteristic can be design as what we want, it’s hard to believe others any more.
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